May the Light of Knowledge Remove the Darkness of Ignorance: Shubh Deepawli

source: http://webneel.com/webneel/blog/diwali-greetings-card-collection-2

Its been busy, too much going on, but I did not want to miss this day and wish all those who came to this site a beautiful --bright-happy Diwali!!

The above image is from a 'rangoli' floor decoration, I made last year. On purpose using the Swastika, which has been so maligned because some folks in Europe did not know what it meant.  Swastika, literally means, a symbol of health and prosperity.  Cross, which has been associated with Christianity, is a very recent form of it. There are over 300 forms of Swastikas that exist, including the cross used by the Orthodox church. IN many native american communities it was used to symbolise the sun. Often times these rangolis are made of purely spices and edible stuff, e.g. cake and wheat flour, so that they may become food for the ants.  Such is the beauty of hinduism, that it recognises all life forms and they are to be respected just as much as human beings, and loved as we love Gods. For there is only one!! Only one life.

At the risk of sounding strange, I am going to leave a link here for a celebration that I just learnt about.  It is a part of Diwali celebrations in parts of India and nepal.  Tihar: meaning festival, is known by the animals and birds it pays respects to.  Dogs and possibly cats, cows and crows (representing birds).  So, folks, here is a celebration that is not just for humans, but makes sure we honor all life, especially because without them, we won't exist either.  This is knowledge!!

May the Light of Knowledge Remove the Darkness of Ignorance: Shubh (auspicious) Deepawli!!

Dr. Aunty!

Dr. Aunty and Mama

‘Hello’ said a familiar voice on the phone.

‘Hello’ said I.

‘Who is this?’ she asked.

‘Dr. Aunty’ I said.

‘Is it you?’  She said my name with the same love and affection as she has for all my life.  Neither or us needed to introduce ourselves, we know each other by our voices. 

I do not remember when I saw her, or even noticed her first.  She has always been around.  I often forget her first name, but we always called her Dr. Aunty.  In fact the entire neighborhood called her Dr. Aunty.  


Dr Aunty and Dr. Uncle were our neighbors in Delhi.  But they moved to their own place sometime in early 80s.  Until then they rented the first floor (which in the US is second floor—its not the ground floor but the one above it) in the house adjacent to ours.  Those were the days of joint families, which to me till this day remain the best antidote to depression and isolation that is the product of our modern times.  And Bauji and Biji (grandfather and grandmother), Guli uncle’s wife and her two sons, Kaka Uncle his wife and their children, and Dr. Aunty and Uncle and their two sons lived there. Today one wonders how, but for me, these people remain role models.  They created a secure safe society for us by their simple life and high morality, which in India is always a group morality, and we were the beneficiaries.

So much so that I took that idea of security with me and have lived by those standards and ideas –for all the years that I have been away from home.  I remain grateful to all these people who gave ‘an idea of a very simple life’, an important factor of which was that ‘we just do not live for ourselves’.  But unlike the west or the modern ‘idea’ of goodness, this idea was closely connected to the family.  As a result, families took care of each other, in the long run with little dependence on the state.  After having lived and travelled in so many places, I think it is a very important factor in creating a self-sufficient society. 

We were still in school, when Dr. Aunty, Dr. Uncle and her two sons moved away.  Bauji and Biji by then had sadly passed on.  Then years after cohabitation, everyone created their own family.  But my memories of them as neighbors are some of the fun filled memories of my childhood.

Dr. Aunty’s older son, who is a year older, was in my class and her younger son a year older than my middle sister.   So, at least with her older son G, and another neighbor who lived on the second floor S, we would always discuss school and exams.  We sat for our standard exams for tenth grade the same year.  I remember at one time G, S and I had decided that we will all study in our respective houses but step out of our room, G and S in their balconies and me in my ground floor house, and chat for a few minutes to cheer up and encourage each other and then go back to studying.  We would do it about 2-3 times through the night, as we all studied well into the night.

But here is the truth that at least one of us, if not all of us, would sometimes nap between our meetings, because we were just tired and because we were kids.

I remember Dr. Aunty’s witty remark when she said, ‘This year, there will be a steep rise in our electricity bills and possibly a steep decline in the grades of our children.’

We laughed but we were truly concerned.  Tenth grade decided our fates.  Today I find it so hard to believe the pressures that were put on us at that age. Tenth grade for me meant barely 14.  Which means since 12-13, we were burdened with the fear of scoring high in 10^th grade.  At my time, we prepared for two years.  Meaning in 10^th grade, we were tested on our knowledge of 9^th and 10^th.  After the standardized tests of tenth grade, we had to decide whether we will to towards science (pure sciences and math, engineering, medicine), commerce (business etc.) or arts (arts, humanities, & languages). Imagine having that heavy responsibility at that young an age.  When I think of how children that age in the US were thinking of dating, I just have to smile at the difference.  Dating was nowhere near our hearts and minds.  Besides our parents took care of that for us…ha, ha…thanks to arranged marriage, which still works better. 

Once in 11^th standard, which is not really the determining class for our academic destiny, G, who was quite resourceful called us and told us that he had in his possession as ‘leaked paper.’  In India in the standardized exams, one never knows what will be asked of us. Since we are taught in our schools, some one else sets the exams and someone else grades them.

Excited, we decided to meet at S’s place.  S was the youngest of siblings and quite pampered. Also, being the only son, had some sense of ‘being the young man’ in the house.  It must have been about 9 pm that time. I ran next door and took two flights up. I so well remember that stairway.  Not really a winding stairway, and not metallic either, it was built into the building, all stone and concrete, was not very wide and often dark.  But in hot summers it seemed the coolest of all places.  G, took just one flight up, and we all met.  We must have studied the exam for about 4 hours, before we returned to our respective homes. 

Imagine our surprise when the next morning, all of us, in our respective schools (all of us went to private schools, and they are all different, although S and I were in the same school until grade 8) did not know whether to laugh or cry or simply fall asleep on our tables, when we found out that we had not prepared the correct exam.  Usually, the board sets several exams, and only a few hours before the final exam, do they choose which exam will be used for the entire state, and sometimes, entire country.  Also, the classes that determined our future, at that time were 10^th and 12^th. I think it was only that year that they had decided that even 11^th grade exam will be set in offices outside of our home schools.

We returned home, with long faces.  Dr. Aunty, had her usual giggle.  ‘Chal, koi nai’, doesn’t matter, no big deal, it was only 11^th grade’ she said.  It was after 12^th grade’s standardized exams we got our entrance to university and forever our fate was sealed. 

As crazy as it sounds, today, all of us, and I mean all of us are Doctors, Engineers, Professors, Historians, Mathematicians and Entrepreneurs!! None of us ever did drugs, no alcohol, we never swore, no dating scene.  Every except me is in a gristha ashram (householder’s life)—Two of us are outside of India.  Who are these people married to?—doctors, engineers, entrepreneurs.  They all have had only one partner in their life, all of them are together with their first partner.  How can I not acknowledge –the foundation of our childhood.  From people who were sorted and did their dharma, like they were breathing.  Cooking, running a household, and taking care of in-laws and grandparents and grand-in-laws was not labeled oppressive or restrictive.  It was merely doing something that upholds a healthy society. 

Today, I think, those who have not had this kind of background or do not engage in such activities to create such structures, have and will always have a sense of loneliness and emptiness. 

IN the west that is why people after a certain age either rush to volunteer or work harder at work.---to get a sense of meaning in life.  But, our Indian society has known it for a long time.  Happiness, as I read somewhere, comes from not having things but being a part of something.  And no matter how much you volunteer and no matter how hard you work, a large, well knit connected family cannot be replaced.  I know it from personal experience.   I have friends all over the world, but it is amazing what I have created with my family, and extended family members even those who were born after I left home.

In the middle of our growing up, was the laughter of our parents, the Doctors, Sahni Aunty, Chachaji and Chachiji (our next door neighbors), and many others who were a witness to our growing up.

I remember a line from Namesake, when the protagonist Ashima, says to her husband after the birth of her first child ‘I don’t want to live in America’.  The husband says, think of what we can offer him in the US.  ‘But Ashima did not want her child to be raised, unobserved’  writes the author.

We were certainly not unobserved. I remember, because I was short, all the aunties around me always said, ‘So when are you growing up?’ When I go home, they compliment me and say, ‘God, you still look the same’.  It was that knowing that kept us secure.  Today people put pictures of their children and their families on facebook, ‘to be noticed’.   

I find it sad, because that ‘noticing is devoid of knowing.’

Dr. Aunty, I would say, knows us.  She has a joyful voice and a hearty laugh. She had a way of making things seem easy.  My all time memories are of her laughing, as her shoulder come closer to her chin, and she still continues to keep a smile on her face.

As is obvious from my other posts, we celebrated birthdays with a big show usually.  So, we invited our relatives and the entire neighborhood.  The thing was that so many of us were the same age.  I remember attending a few birthday parties at Dr. Aunty’s. After the cake was gone and we have devoured the snacks, and left the gifts, we would play in the house.  Looking back I wonder how in the world did we even do that? The rooms were not that big, but oh, they were our world!! We played this game called ‘hot & cold’ where we would hide something, and the one person had to figure out where it was hidden.  When sh/e was closer we would say, ‘hot’ and if they were far, we would yell ‘cold’ to help them find the hidden object, which could be as small as a coin.

Then we played ‘The dark room’.  Where we turned the lights off and scared each other.   Dr. Aunty would always pop in the room and check what we were doing.

‘A little less noise please’ she would say as she knocked at the door, and go back to the kitchen.

Today, when I think back, I realize how much work she did.  She was a full time doctor and the elder daughter-in-law who took care of all.  Can we imagine a young woman today who does the same job, ‘actually do the same job?’.  Even in India, with live in servants and easy life, people do much less work and are more tired.  Technology and other empty things take up time.  Spirituality and prayer was not something that was outside of their daily lives.  Dr. Aunty, my Mom, and women of their generation did their work as a prayer. 

Mamma and Daddy and Dr. Aunty and Dr. Uncle would usually go for late night movies or plays.  We were under the careful watch of our grandfather and G and B under the careful watch of several adults at home.  Sometimes G and B would come and stand outside our window and scare us and some times we girls would scream in Bollywood style.

Papaji, our grandfather would gently say, ‘Enough kids, stop it.’

Once when our parents were away for an evening outing, we found mom’s vanity box, and treated ourselves to all kinds of makeup and three kinds of perfume.  But we made a mistake; we played too long, got too tired and then went to bed with boxes open and our faces painted like we were clowns.  Mom was really upset the next morning, Not because we used her things, but because she said make up and creams were not good for our tender skins.  ‘You can ask Dr Aunty’ she had said, always pointing at her as the authority.  I can smile today, but it was nice how mothers used each other as an authority in various things to make their children understand something.

Dr. Aunty and Dr. Uncle left for Ghana, sometime when we were in fourth grade.  I do not remember much, except that, we were told they were in ‘Africa’.  G stayed back, being taken care of by his grandparents and uncles and aunts, because it was not wise to disrupt his schooling. B, who was the younger one, accompanied his parents.  Those wonderful days of joint families!! Children did not belong to just one pair of parents.  They belonged to the family.  They were taken care of by the family.  I remember how often, I would hear ‘Biji’ (affectionate term for mother and grandmother) call ‘G’ out to get his head massage, a weekly ritual in India. 

During the four years the doctors of the neighborhood were gone, if I remember correctly, they made one or two trips back home.  Then we would see Dr. Aunty in those African shirts, with little pom-poms hanging at the hem.  They seemed so different.  Dr. Aunty would also bring us gifts.  I always remember her by her laughter.

G made a couple of trips alone to Ghana, and would tell us about ‘the wonders of being inside a plane’.  I remember I used much of that knowledge and one lesson from my eighth grade book titled ‘A plane ride’ (in Hindi) to navigate my own first flight.

The Doctors returned when we just finished our seventh grade.  Then, they started to visit more often and once again our parents started to hang out together.  

I remember the night before my history exam, when Dr. Uncle came to park his car in our verah (open space which is cemented rather than with grass), as he always did, past 10 pm, I was studying hard.  ‘Do you wait till the last moment to cram it all’  he said. 

I giggled embarrassingly.  But I did study a lot more around the exams.  But I guess so do most students J.  I think the only time I truly was interested in doing what I did was during my masters.  That was my high time!! I loved every class and scored pretty high GPA.  Why?  Because all of it was creative!! Some of our classes were, Black and White photography, with a focus on developing photographs creatively (in the dark room, sometimes using tinctures and colors), Advanced media Writing, Television Direction, Video Editing and Script Writing.

Dr. Aunty never made those jokes as Dr. Uncle, who was very straight-forward.  Dr. Aunty’s jokes were always about ‘life is ok, it is good, we get more than we deserve and it will all be fine.’

I remember she never forgot my birthday. And even as I got older and was shy to have a birthday party, she would have a gift for me.  One of the most attractive gift I remember is a white skin hugging top, which a ribbed pattern.  I must have been about 12, and I wore it with a deep blue mini-skirt that my mom’s friend from London had given me or with white trousers that mom got me stitched at family tailor’s shop.  In the recent years, I made sure to call her on her birthday as well. And sometimes her anniversary.

But over the years, travel and much work-load got me tired.  I started to feel that I was the only one keeping relationships and connections together.  If I thought of her so fondly, her children could keep a connection with mom and us as well.  But may be they don’t because they are boys.  Well, then their spouses should take up responsibility.  Family relations, as we knew, that went for generations have a strength, that cannot be replaced with new friendships.  But people need to understand, there is a security for people to know people from generations, it is that that has lent security to India.

I have stopped connecting much, and calling, I simply cannot keep up.  There is also Chawla Aunty, who lives only ten minutes drive away, and while I sent her letters and called her sometimes, I have not been able to keep up with that either.  Same thing, she has two sons, none of who keep in touch with mom or us.  Last time I was home, I told them off. ‘Who is going to keep these relationships. I call your mom, but you living in Delhi do not come and check on my mother’.  These things come as a ‘the right--haque’ after having put in energy and affection into people.  And so, they listened, they apologized and promised to keep in touch with mom and me.

I refuse to believe it is all because of time.  Such relations are not easy to find, cannot be developed in a few years.  These are generational.  I am in touch with R, Dhan Uncle’s daughter quite often.  Whenever I am home we visit each other.  Usually we are out of time, but we have met always whenever I am home.  And she calls home whenever she can.  I also call P and S who lived on the second floor, although not that often.  And Sh, who lived on the ground floor, next to our house.  It was truly a magical time.

Rishte—relationships ---are maintained by effort.  While movement and relocation can change/alter/modify them, it is important to work on them.  Life has a way of taking over, we need to know where we want to steer it.  Despite my movement, I have some people from all stages of my life, who I am in touch with.  From my friends who I have known since before I was five, and those I met during Phd and those I have met during my travels.  Sure, many have fallen off. But that neighborhood of mine, where I grew up in India, that place, where people lived in one place for generations provided a level of stability that is hard to come by today.  May be that is why people watch ‘Friends’ ‘Big Bang Theory’ because that familiarity that takes decades to come by is what people want, they also want to have friendships that will bear the test of time and difference, arguments and conflicts.  Those are the ones that are worth keeping.

If you have not had a serious conflict and overcome it, then you do not know what friendship is. 

But people want it easy today.  I have slowly let things go.  Just because I cannot keep up.  And for the last 8 months I have been on sick leave at varying levels.  Exhaustion took over.  ‘Oh you are so sweet’ people said when they realized how much I put in them.  But did not realize it is was not a charity, it was an invitation for a connection, which means you put in effort too.  Although I took that stance about twenty years ago, today, I am very clear about where my energies will go. Not in a mean way, but as a way of survival.  In 7 habits of successful people, Steve Covey says, that love and affection are like a bank account.  You cannot keep extracting without putting it back, or the account/giver dries out at some point. 

I read the book way back in 1993.  Understood and agreed with it. It is only now that I put it in practice.

But even today, whenever I go to India, my trip is incomplete without seeing Dr. Aunty, Chawla Aunty and several other people from my neighborhood. 

But Dr. Aunty remains special for more than one reason.  She is one person who always makes sure to connect. Yes, I am disappointed that her children have not continued that.  But she comes, always.

‘Hello’ said a familiar voice on the phone.

‘Hello’ said I.

‘Who is this?’ she asked.

‘Dr. Aunty’ I said.

‘Is it you?’  She said my name with the same love and affection as she has for all my life.  Neither or us needed to introduce ourselves, we know each other by our voices. 

‘How long are you here?’

‘Well, now only three days left’

‘Ok then, put the phone down, I am coming.’ 

She lives an hour or more drive away. Knowing Delhi traffic nothing is certain.  But she was at our house within 2 hours of speaking to me, with gifts and laughter and smiles.  She always brings me these philosophical books from India’s tradition.  I love reading them.  They add to my collection of other spiritual books that I read from India and other places. 

I am grateful that they all, gave me and many others in our neighborhood a life that became our support.  It was that strength –that foundation that allowed me to do what I have done.  It is only now that I have travelled the world that what I have done is almost impossible today. It is hard to find people who live with the integrity I live with, when I’ve coursed through life without any tangible, close support.  It is because I had my parents, and people like Dr. Aunty who give me a continuity! 

As Dr. Aunty entered, I rushed to hug her.  And then rushed towards the kitchen to make some tea. 

‘No, you sit down here.’

*aaati hoon, aati hoon aunty, I am coming, I am coming’  I said I set up the tea to boil on the stove, so we could in a few minutes, once again sip tea and chat about life, as if we have always been neighbors!! 

Swagatam--The Way We Welcome!!

As many conferences as I have attended, very few of those have been in India.  As a result, I have little understanding of how it works in India.  I remember a few things from school but not really. I became used to the generic conferences, the dull modern, 'secular' version of it.  But in India, 'Athiti Devo Bhava' means 'the guest is a form of divine' So welcome rituals for people are not very different from that for the divine, in temples and the similar procedures are used in other festivals and celebrations like weddings and ceremonies for going into a new house. So, when I attended two conferences, and a few workshops, I was overjoyed to see this kind of welcome. The one with flowers above was done for a farewell ceremony for graduating students, the simple one in chalk on the left is outside a very old temple on the campus of  Indian Institute of Technology in Madras. 

The above is done all in rose and marigold petals.  Can you imagine being greeted by a rush of fragrant rose and a whiff if marigold...and your olfactory lobes are wondering, hmm...which flowers....

The above one are swirls of rajnigandha (tuberose) along with some mango leaves (considered auspicious) around a pole that separated different sections of the all auditorium.   it made the entire auditorium smell heavenly.  Perfect for hot countries that can be quite unbearable in summers. 

Good bye to the students and celebrating 15 years of an institute that teaches video and animation!!

 The entrance of the hall, all the decorations on the door are fresh flowers.  

Can you see the 'hand?'  The two formations in orange on the left is the thumb and the middle finger and the rest three are the index finger, ring finger and little finger, the symbol of this organisation where I attended a workshop.  

I loved the above two, just absolutely simply beautiful, fragrant and artistic.  A treat for the eyes. 

A close up of the green in some of floral decorations (called alplana, rangoli and kolam in different Indian languages)

And potted plant always lights it all up. Aurocaria is something that you will usually find only in north India, --used as Xmas tree, it is native to really cold countries.  But in north India it is usually used an indoor plant.  I have seen much of this in Pennsylvania and ofcourse now Sweden.

So, I hope you have gotten a glimpse of how colourful, and fragrant welcome is in India (it had its own flavour in Fiji, so I would say the same about Fiji as well).  I hope you could feel the coolness and the sweetness of using fresh flowers!!  

Swagatam--the sanskrit word for Welcome, refers to health, welcome and welfare. 

Teacher?

A small stall that sells flowers at the temple closest to my parents' house

The post has been dated earlier than it was written.  Since I could not write anything in august, even though I have about 60 posts in various stages of being completed.

When in India this year, I started a ritual for myself.  To give myself some discipline.  That I would go to the morning prayers at the temple.  They started about 6:15 am.  The temple is about 6 minutes walk away from home.  And usually I would bathe and change to clothes that had not been worn at all after the wash.  This concept is important only in cold countries. Because in countries like India and Fiji, one cannot wear clothes more than once before sending them to wash.  

But regardless, I wrote this here to share a few things that are hoped that the devotee would care for before entering the temple.  It helps keeps the environment clean.  Not by the clean clothes and me having taken a bath.  But actually because of those things, I myself feel calm and clean and therefore it adds to my ease and disposition as I go to the temple.

There would be about 10 women --who would be ready to sing songs, may be dance a bit and play simple musical instruments such as dholak, chimta (tongs with bells similar to cymbals on them), manjira (Indian cymbals) and dafli (tambourine) and of course the simplest, --clapping.

During this ritual, I would greet the young boy who was selling flowers at this stall.  The stall is a new addition, so I had not seen it on my last visit.  I would chat with him for a few minutes and sometimes share the prasad (offerings to deities, that are then shared with the devotees) ---and sometimes we would just give each other an 'acquaintance nod'.

One time a beautiful little child sitting outside the temple came and asked me for money. I shared my prasad with him, gave him something very little.  But not before sitting him down asking him what he was doing with is life, if he was going to school. If not, and if the parents could not afford, then even then could he learn a trade so that he does not have to depend on anyone.  The child was really beautiful, had he not asked me for money, told me he did not go to school and not been wearing those ragged clothes, he could easily pass for a child belonging to a rich family. There was a glory to his face.

But, it was the time I spent with him that made the young flower seller stop and stare at me. I caught him staring, when I looked up, he looked away quickly, then looked back, smiled and gave a nod again.

The next day when I went, he asked me, 'are you a teacher?'

I smiled. I knew what he was referring to.  May be the patience I showed in talking to the child.  But I also noticed the respect he gave to the profession.  I can't say that teachers are all the same, or teachers today have that attitude of actually changing lives.

Also, I do not think teachers get their due respect in societies today where they earn some of the lowest salaries.  But, what touched me was the awe and respect with which he asked me, 'Teacher?'

When I smiled, both of us nodded in a quiet understanding of what it meant and where the question came from. 

Threaded Glory

Its painting of sorts. Painting made of thread.  Since it is framed and covered with glass, you can see the reflection of festive strips were behind me when I took this picture, last year in December in Delhi Haat. I walked past it and then returned, because so many people were staring at it.  When I came closer, I realised why.  The entire thing is done in thread, that too on a machine.  The man who did it says he taught himself this.  Before doing this, he worked at a bank or something like that.  Today this is his business.  Not an ordinary talent, not an ordinary profession.  I still feel as if not only is it a photograph but actually I can feel the man's eyes breathe!!  Talent is a gift from the heavens.  Each creation a unique sonnet.  All one can do is bow to the mystery and beauty of this planet!!

Almost Two Months of Absence

I apologise to the readers for not writing for such a long time.  But as you can see from the entries that the last year this has been the trend. 

Its been a crazy year. I had to take sick leave, as concentration etc. had become really hard. I have had that issue for several years.  Even when I was working on my doctorate.  But being strong I pulled through it all, but life does become difficult when you have to constantly be in a situation where you have to constantly make decisions and be always in a learning environment.  If it is not learning about a new country, then it is about learning about new forms of library and information storage as every university is different, finding out where to shop, how to make international calls.  Only since the last 8-9 years when I transferred all my calls to Skype, even calling landlines, since I add money to my Skype account, has it been a bit better.  Then there is the banking system, or the local and interstate and international travel system?

Meiji Shrine, Tokyo

Always being in that mode takes away energy from my career and other personal decisions, and so there was a break down.

Regardless, I wrote papers during this time.  I had a meditation/Peace Revolution conference in Budapest in April, then again in late April a one day workshop in south of Sweden, and then in May I started writing a completely new paper on India studies.  I had never done this before but I am really interested in these civilisational issues.  Especially seeing the damage that western way of thinking and Abrahamic religions that not only borrowed so much from the pagans but cut off from nature, have wrought on the world.  This conference allowed me to write a few things that will help me go into that direction.  It is a dangerous route, but I know that it seems like my svadharma--(action, choice of profession or a path according to our natural inclination).

Tourists at Meiji Shrine, Tokyo

I finished the paper after 3 weeks of sleepless nights, on June 3rd when I had planned to meet a friend for dinner.  I finished around 2:30 pm and thought since I am meeting the friend at 5:30 I will get an hour or two of nap.  But got a call from the university to take care of some material.  I changed rode my bike to school, needed to come back to get some documents, fixed all that and it was 4:50 pm already by that time, I parked my bike at the university and went to town.  On 4th and 5th of June, I had to clean and organise the house, leave my plants to a neighbours to get watered, ask some other housekeeping to be taken care of, oh yes, as always pay the bills, and the most important and difficult and time consuming task, PACK....well enough to have all kinds of shoes, and clothes that allowed freedom after work was over. 

I left for a conference in Japan on very early morning of the 6th of June.  I did not sleep the night before--had to fix my bags, make sure all the presentations were intact and all the print outs of the bachelors essays that I was grading were there.

I did not even register that I was going to Japan, a country I love so much.  On the plane, I fell sick, threw up and slept most of the 9 hrs of first leg of the flight.  

When I finally landed in Japan, there was something that made me smile and say, 'Konichua to Japan---will write about that later.'

This was my second time to Japan, and even then I had hardly researched. I was staying in the country 5 days after the conference but had not planned a single day.

My first paper was in Tokyo.  I arrived around midnight, woke up early brushed up my presentation and presented, back to the hotel and off to Fukuoka via the bullet train, for which I bought the ticket after I got there.  

First day in Fukuoka, I actually spent in town.---having a simple vegetarian meal while finalising my comments on the essays.

That evening I had two bachelor's essay defense via Skype.  Went to bed quite late, and I had an early presentation.  During the conference which lasted nearly a week I had four presentations, three meetings, and two essays to comment on, both before and after defense. 

So even in the five days of vacation, I was actually responding to students, what they should improve in their thesis etc.

I never really got over jet lag in the 14 days (including travel and stay).  I returned and had to attend a one day conference the day after.  By the time I realised how much work I needed to do, I was sad and depressed and one point crying.  

I had to leave on the 3rd again to attend a conference in India starting on the 6th.  The last time I slept in the bed was the first of July.  On the second, I went to do the last minute shopping, which always reminds me that I come the last.  Because I truly needed a bag that I had been eyeing a bag that I need, but I went too late that day and the shop had closed.  I just bought a few sweets and other goodies to take as gifts (which I am trying to reduce now, just going shopping has become stressful) --and returned.

I did not sleep on the 2nd night, and got about 2 hrs sleep, and left on the early morning of the 3rd.  Arrived in India on the 4th evening, and left on the 5th morning for the conference in the south of India, that is about 3 hrs flight from my home city.  But the night of the 4th I was working on the presentation for the conference which was due that night.  Arriving late on the 5th on one of the most beautiful campuses I have ever seen, IIT Madras (Indian Institute of Technology at Madras).  At any odd moment a herd of deers would just stop by around us, as if it were nothing unusual to them to have people, vehicles and laughter around them. 

Deer at IITM: Picture Courtesy of IITM Website

My presentation was on the middle day and so I stayed up the night before, finishing a 5 minute video that accompanied the presentation.  I went to bed at 4 am.  And the last day of the conference, we were all so excited about the topic of the  conference that we all stayed up till 4 am again just chatting about the 'nature of reality and many other topics surrounding Indic civilisation and thought.'

The day after my mom arrived, and I took her on a two day travel of Puducherry, Kanchipooram, and Chennai. 

Returned only 1.5 days ago and am back to work.  Meaning serious work, reading and writing --things that need to be done.  Still have to deal with the heat.  But I kept thinking I must document how hectic it is all for me, and how exhausting it can be, and what tolls it takes.  And for that reason I have stopped writing or calling or doing many creative things.  But I do remind myself to be grateful.  For travel is exciting on the outside it is quite draining otherwise.  But what it does do, it you have the energy to learn, is to see, that the world is beautiful as it is.  The more I think about it, karma, reincarnation make more sense.  There is so much out of our control and to simply to say, 'God Has a Plan' does not work for me. I think we ourselves had had that plan and in some ways we wrote our own histories but we are bound by our 'sanskars' which are embedded tendencies from many lifetimes and affect our decision making.  We make good, bad, wrong right decisions because how our karma direct our thinking.  And yet, karma is not fatalistic, once we are aware, we can make changes.  And yet, some things are hard to change. 

I am in the process of analysing how much do I change, what can I change and in what direction shall I move the rest of my life.  IN many ways I am grateful, in many ways holding my breath, for my life to start!!